I Hear You
I'm here to solve all of your problems.
One — tell me what's going on.
Two — tell me what you want to be different.
This is the one most people skip.
“I don't like this” — I can listen.
“I want my landlord to give me twenty-four hours' notice before he enters” — now we can do something.
If you don't know yet, say so. Sometimes the answer is “I just want someone to know this happened. I'm not asking for anything to change.” That works.
Three — have you talked to the person about it?
Yes or no.
If no — what's stopping you? Are you afraid? Have they brushed you off before? Do they have power over you? Is it not safe?
The answer changes what I can do for you.
That's it.
Take your time.